You cant take up a full time hectic job at 25, because you are supposed to get married at this age. Girls shouldn’t take up medicine as their subject, as it takes up a lot of time and then you cant be a good daughter. You can’t even think of being an actor, because then the society will talk shit about you and your family. Don’t get involved in a lot of social service, who will take care of your children if you do that. One question that pops up in my head every time i hear something like this, women today are capable enough to take up multiple responsibilities, deal with it! I was always asked to not try and sail on two boats at the same time. But i strongly believe that the generation next born with the ability to be a multi tasker.
Once in school when i was picked as a team member for the district level handball match, my English professor told me, “balancing on two different boats at the same time will lead me nowhere, either study or be an athlete” I obviously didn’t listen to him, though the statement affected me so much that even today i function exactly opposite. Thanks to my mom who was always supportive, right from the time I took up drama classes as acting and dancing was always a passion. Weekend activities are mostly working on shortfilms, shooting for print assignments, performing at community functions or just writing! It was much more than extra curricular activities, it always served as a break from all the stress in life. My mom just smiles or nods her head when i tell her the next things in my head are learning musical instruments and buy a sewing machine, not because i wish to make money out of extra activities, just because it would be amazing to play your favorite songs for yourself and flaunt clothes you’ve stitched for yourself on your own! Because creating something has always been my first love. Playing an agni-aunt to my friends and their friends and acting as counselor to help people deal with issues from career to heart-break has always been a part of my life. My friend last week randomly asked me to talk to her friend and help her deal with the rough phase she’s going through in her personal life. I will always be the first one to get to work when there’s a party being planned, as that’s another part of me, who loves decorating places, managing events and hosting them. It feels amazing when I can introduce myself as a social media marketer, an actor, a model, a counselor and a party planner of sorts and an ameteur guitarist.
The society today need to digest the fact that a woman is not entitled just to the kitchen, or just being a mother, she is much more than that, way more than the world can even imagine. Because when a man returns from work to have dinner, his wife has already returned from work, cooked dinner for everyone, served her kids, help them with their homework and get them to bed and yet enough energy left to spend some quality time with her man.